Aloha from Hawaii, where I spend my days enjoying the wonder of life and sharing how thousands of others can do the same with the various companies and coaching programs I have.
I just got back from the beach where I was watching the sunset and gentle waves, and thought to write to you what is deep in my heart right now. If you are an old soul, you will know what I am feeling here, I’m sure.
Today was one of those strange days of feeling a bit weird about everything. As usual, I was looking for deeper answers to what I was feeling, what is REALLY going on inside, and how to make sense of it all. I know I am not alone in feeling weird at times, especially as things keep heating up and heating up, and shifting at tremendous speed – we are all living in extra-ordinary times are we not?
So here’s what I come to realize…let me know if this resonates with you.
Firstly, life is not meant to be painful. At one time it was immensely pleasurable and magical for us. It was so beautiful beyond our wildest dreams and each moment contained such love and wonder words can never describe it.
Secondly, because we have experienced this in previous lives, we MISS it so deeply it hurts our hearts every single day we are forced to conform to living mediocre lives in this strange world. We don’t fit in and are probably never going to fit in until we return to how it was.
Thirdly, once we have experienced tremendous love and depth in our hearts, in our lives, in our relationships we can’t be satisfied with anything less. We crave that deep connection and it haunts us every time we speak to people about the ‘normal things’ and are obliged to go along with random conversations and superficial things that don’t nourish our souls.
We NEED that level of love and deep connection – but, WHERE IS IT?
What is going on?
Where can we find REAL connection?
Why is it so hard to experience this powerful connection or true soul love?
Arrrgh! The pains of an old soul. We do our best to manage with the day-to-day duties and responsibilities, but still the need to go deep remains.
So, how do you FEEL about your life and your level of connection?
What can be done to increase the magic NOW and open doors to more wonder and soul connection so we can embrace and re-experience the real depth and juiciness of life?
This question has absorbed my mind every day for most of my life… and I have only a few answers to it.
Firstly, to simply acknowledge that this depth of love and connection REALLY exists and we have experienced it at some point is a great relief. It helps us to remember we are OK and we are NOT crazy. We are just in a foreign kingdom where very few can relate to the needs of the heart in a way that means something to us.
Secondly, I feel it’s helpful to accept we may NEVER experience this deep soul connection for more than a moment at a time. And…most people are actually AFRAID of it! Yes, afraid, because nearly all of us are scared of going so deep and being so opened up, we are unlikely to have the opportunity to open that door with someone until the time is right.
Thirdly, as we wake up and connect to our own beauty and love, it allows others to do the same.
In the meantime, we can’t wait around our whole lives for the magic to happen, so we need to get over the waiting and waiting – we need to smile as best we can and move on to what we can do about it.
How to reach that deeper connection
What we can do is speak very, very lovingly and intimately with ourselves.
Really love and accept every simple tiny particle of yourself – embrace your depth. Acknowledge your love, your beauty, your magical eyes – your sense of life beyond all words. Discover the real you, the one who is constant and compassionate and in a state of wonder always. Learn to allow that state to permeate your being no matter what else you think or say. Know that part of you and cherish it with all your heart and soul as the most precious thing in life.
I know how weird life can be at times. I know how painful it is at times, how lonely, how sad and lost. But even in the midst of it there is a spark of life, a spark of truth shining in the darkness – and that is YOU.
It is hard to connect with that spark when we are so absorbed in self pity and yearning to be loved and needed. But, it is the ONLY thing that remains, as all the eyes of human beings clasp shut and we are left alone with ourselves – whoever we are, wherever we are at.
So…let us fully embrace this ONE and only thing we can ever be sure of: our own beauty and grace. And, as we open to this we will automatically attract and increase the love and connection in our lives. If we chase our shadow we will remain unfulfilled for a long time. But, as we face the sun within, we discover a light so bright and so wonderful we can smile and beam to ourselves even in the midst of chaos, or even while shopping in Walmart for the most mundane things.
This is where the magic exists forever and this is the only place we are safe.
Let us retreat back into this love and sweet, gentle peace again and again and again. Let us stay there as long as we can as we cultivate the safe space within to truly experience that level of love with others we once knew so well.
Sending you love, knowingness and deep appreciation.